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Me: What is it that gets you feeling depressed?
Client: I don’t know. Nothing really. It just comes out of the blue. And I just wish I did not feel this way.
Then I begin to gather data about their lives, and almost always, the reason for depression (or anxiety) emerges. The most common narrative is something like the following (these elements would usually unfold over a half an hour to an hour of exploration—they are accelerated here for clarity and put in the context of a male college student):
Me: So, tell me a little bit about what is going on. What does your life look like here at college?
Client: I go to class, but I really am not that interested in what I am doing. But obviously, I need a college degree if I am going to get a decent job. I have a few people who I hang out with, but they don’t really know what is going on with me, and I don’t feel like talking about it. Lately, since I feel bummed, I often just stay in my room.
Me: What about romantic relationships?
Client: I hooked up once last semester. But I don’t have any romantic relationships.
Me: Tell me about your relationship with your parents.
Client: It is fine, I guess. I talk with them some.
Me: Do they know about your moods?
Client: No. They care about my grades, but I don’t want to burden them with my moods.
Me: What was your relationship like while growing up?
Client: Fine, I guess. They divorced when I was 12. My mom left my dad and my brother and I moved in with her boyfriend, now my step-dad.
Me: How is your relationship with him?
Client: Not good. He is an asshole.
Me: Did that put a strain on your relationship with your mother?
Client: I don’t know. We never talked about it.
One of the things that folks are most confused about when it comes to anxiety and depression is the relationship between the feelings and the root nature of the problem. Our society confuses these things and way too often labels the feelings as the problem. Consider it this way. If you break your arm and then go into the emergency room, you don’t say, “I have pain-in-my-arm disorder”. The pain is the signal that there is a problem. Or if you are outside for a long time in the cold with no jacket, upon feeling very cold, you don’t say that you have “a coldness disorder.” Or if you don’t eat for a long time and you feel famished, you don’t have a “hunger disorder.” Feeling pain, cold, and hunger are signals that your basic needs for bodily integrity, warmth, and food were not met. The feelings are not the problem, per se.
Negative feelings like depression and anxiety function the same way. Depression and anxiety are, for the large majority of cases, emotional signals that one’s psychological health is not ideal and that one’s psychosocial, relational needs are not being met. Indeed, the first place that I look when I see depression and anxiety is the need for relational value. As deeply relational beings, humans have needs for relational value in the following areas:
#Family #Peers, #friendships #Romanticpartner #Group/occupational/social identity
There is also the relationship they have with themselves and the extent to which they feel proud and accepting of themselves (or the reverse). It is crucial that we feel known and valued by our family, our friends, and our lovers and that we have a way to be known and valued in terms of how we contribute to society. And it is crucial that we respect and have compassion for ourselves.
Now look back at the exchange above. One can see immediately that the client is low in all these domains. He feels alienated from his family; he lacks intimate friendships; he has had no romantic involvement; he does not see a clear and valuable pathway to contribute to society. And he has no idea about how to think about himself in a positive light.
( This article is shared by Dr.Pallavee Walia, Blossom Clinic, Agra)
Clinical & Rehabilitation Psychologist,
P.G.D.R.P Rehabilitation Psychology , M.A Clinical Psychology, Certificate in Guidance and Counselling (CIG).
Blossom Clinic, Agra